I watched a young mama shiver in the cold and wind, and as I went to give her a hug, these words reached my ear, “I don’t have a coat.”
She was smiling and beautiful, surrounded with her children and wanting to stay for the Christmas party our church was throwing for the community kids.


We’d spent a lot of time wrapping gifts and setting things up for fun, food, and even some preaching. The kids were aglow and everyone heard about Jesus, got their tummies filled, and lined up for a wrapped gift at the tables.
The kids who had attended weekly Bible lessons under the tree got their own special, labeled bags of gifts for their families. And here I was, a mama myself with my own child running around with the rest.
I wore my favorite parka, one my own mother bought me, one that wrapped me up snug and warm each winter with thoughts of her. It fell just above the knees and hugged me close on cold, wintry days, a little like she did.
I watched the young mama shiver in the cold, determined to stay for her children. Then, I knew what I needed to do. I walked over to her and wrapped my parka around her. “Stay warm”, I whispered.
The smile on her face was lit up with gratitude. I walked away to two friends who both offered to give me one of their jackets. I accepted, and before long had layers to ward off the cold.

Community becomes a circle of love when we allow it. I could have refused the help for myself but as I watched a friend walk to his car to find an extra something for me to wear, I knew this one thing—we’re all supposed to give, receive, and be part of a circle larger than ourselves, no matter where we are.
What if America returned to community, where we invite each other into our homes and extend our tables regardless of status, wealth, or even if the bathrooms are clean enough for guests?
What if Christians went into their communities to serve on soccer fields, town events, and anything else that would help them connect with people? What if we had TIME?
Even things like coaching soccer turns into more than a sport; it is an avenue into children’s hearts and a way to connect with parents on the field. What better way to connect with parents than to love and help their child?
Every child might not love Bible lessons under the tree each Saturday of the year, but every child loves Christmas—and when the same people show up for both, eternal impact can be made.


We are to be in the world but not of the world.
Often, we live as though we are not in the world at all. We build our own Christian empires of Godly homes and safe, theologically sound churches. As long as we keep the world at bay, we feel “Godly” and are convinced that our children will grow up to be the same.
But what if we’ve turned out to be focused more on feeling good about our methods than being in touch with the goodness of our Master?
I’m inviting all my sisters in Christ to join me in a quest for ways to love on our communities. Not as saviors or mini redeemers, but as fellow humans wanting to love all with the love of Jesus Christ, invite all into a place of belonging in Christ, and lengthening our dinner tables as we celebrate and give to others as He gave to us when He entered this world to live with us so He could die for us.

Does it settle into our souls that HE CAME?
Jesus Christ ate with us, spoke with us, and became human when He was fully God.
He walked and lived here when He could have stayed in perfection.
He carried our sins so we wouldn’t have to.
Perhaps the ache in our souls for more is because we were created for more. And as women, we don’t need to wait for our churches or husbands to carry out all we’re longing for. We were born to nurture, create spaces for love, and invite others into them. Here is where the power of Godly femininity comes into play—imagine the impact women could have on their communities if we all did one thing for others that made us uncomfortable?
I can walk past the new mama on her doorstep of that same community, or I can pause, say hi and comment on her baby. I can get her number and ask if I can visit her and her baby.
It took me awhile to get back to her and when I did, this is what she said, “I thought maybe you forgot about us.”
My heart ached a little. Here, I almost didn’t stop to take her number. I almost forgot about her because I didn’t know if she’d want to be remembered. Yet, months later, she remembered a complete stranger and wanted to know I had not forgotten about her.
I entered her apartments days later and sat with her in her own space, holding her baby and chatting about life. The gift beside me wasn’t about the gift but about love—because when you gift a mama’s child, you gift HER in ways she can feel.
How can we walk toward others this Christmas season and into the New Year? How can we live new, reborn, remade—where our minds are set on others and we intentionally walk toward them in ways that make us uncomfortable?
About three hours later on that cold, windy Saturday, the young mama walked toward me. “Did you give me this coat?”
I hesitated and thought of my mother and our shopping day where she’d made sure I had what I needed to stay warm. Then, I looked at my new friend’s young face and her bright eyes surrounded with the same warm fur that had kept my own face warm.
I nodded and wrapped her up in a big hug. “Yes, I gave it to you.”
I spent the following week listening to podcasts (familychurchnetwork.com) on how to show our neighbors the love of Christ. Friends, it looks like so much more than attending church or even inviting others to join you there.

We must be WITH the people Christ came for if we are to show love TO the people Christ died for.
Lengthen your tables, meet your neighbors, show up to volunteer in your communities—and through it all, watch for spirit led ways to bring Jesus.
“For our sakes, He became poor so that we might become rich.” (2 Corinthians 8:9) As Pastor Faw says, “His birth was for His death, and His death was for our LIFE.”
JOY to the world, for He has come!
Love Always,
Sara
This is so beautiful and true.. It touched my heart. Recently I’ve had local church women treat me like a sister and be there and reach out to me in ways that blew me away.. returning to Community is such a blessing!
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I love that! I think there’s an increasing awareness of this need as our culture has buried itself with technology and independence. What are some of the best ways they loved on you?
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Thankyou Sara
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This was just wonderful to read! I love the “lengthen your table” of your life concept you address. Christ did this in all things- beautiful article yet again sister!
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I like the way you put that, Jennifer—“lengthen the table of your life.” So good!
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This is profound, yet very simple! A consistent, loving presence in people’s life that doesn’t bend to rejection or abandonment is what a lot of people and communities are hungering for.
This is the Gospel, not just preaching. Many preachers want to be listened to without first taking the time to listen to the hearts you’re preaching to.
This was really good! ❤️🔥
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Yes! I think it more humanly possible to preach, write, or throw events than to get into a messy world with grace. But people often need a couch to sit on more than they need another event to attend. For some, a couch will open a heart more than a church service will. Preachers can get busy, but I love that at Joy Church we see them connecting one on one with others!
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