How to Find to Your Authentic Personal Style

Guest Post By Rebecca VanderZon

Have you been feeling like you need a complete makeover, but are overwhelmed with responsibilities and have no extra time or money?
Do you see a cute outfit on a friend and go out shopping only to have a frustrating moment under the harsh glare of the fitting room lights?
Do you wonder if you will ever “get it all together”? If you replied yes, then this article is for you!

I absolutely love teaching women how to discover and see their beauty at every age. God created you beautiful; it’s my job to help you minimize the distractions so you can see your beauty better!

Here are 6 tips for success:

Please don’t wait to “lose the baby weight” or “have more time” or any of the thought habits that are self-limiting. You are going to feel great when you treat yourself with dignity. Yes, we need to address the topic of health, but these tips are not going to teach you how to get healthy (I recommend you research and find qualified practitioners to help create a health plan that meets your specific individual needs) My tips will help you present yourself with honor, and that starts now.

Some of us, myself included, did not get much guidance while growing up on how to groom, dress, and present ourselves. Some of us are recovering from toxic relationships which forced us to compromise and minimize ourselves, leaving one to feel like only a shell or out of touch with who she is.
There is healing for this too, and it starts with now, believing who God says you are.

A habit is a behavior or thought that is repeated enough times that it becomes automatic and no longer requires much energy to sustain desired results.
To create authentic style and really great outfits, you need some good habits.
Make a habit of prayer – ask God for wisdom and talk with Him in faith, believing that He will provide.

Make a habit of following seasonal sales and clearance. Join your local neighborhood “Buy Nothing Group” on Facebook. Find the consignment shops in your area and sign up for emails that tell you when they have sales or “fill a bag” days.
Make a habit of saying no to things even if its a good deal and low price tag. It’s okay to pay a little more for one quality piece that makes you feel amazing, then to own a closetful of good deals that are not flattering on you.

Never underestimate the power of a well-fitted, high quality bra! Ladies, there is just no substitute for this one. And GOOD bras are EXPENSIVE. I learned how to afford them on a single self employed income by using a little strategy.

First: get professionally measured and fitted. Lingerie shops offer this as a free service. Victoria’s secret has bi-annual sales (Dec/June) and if you know your updated size, you can order online or shop in store. I buy really high quality bras for $8-$20 during the sale. VS has expanded their sizes to include bras for the well endowed. But my friend who wears double G prefers Layne Bryant because they are large cup only and pay extra attention to detail, quality, support, and coverage.

Are you wondering how to tell if your bra fits well? Here’s how to find out:
Has it been more then 6 months since you had a professional bra fitting?
When you bend your arm and hold in front of you, does your nipple fall lower than halfway between your shoulder and elbow?
Do you have any gaps between bra cup and breast? Or extra skin bulging out of bra on your back or armpits?
If you answered yes to any of the above, then it’s time for a girl’s day out and go get a professional fitting. Don’t wait till you have the money–go get this done for free, then you will know your exact size when the sales drop!

Never underrate these beautiful and classy, yet comfortable and affordable wardrobe staples. One important detail–they need to be paired with a tunic style shirt or a short dress, basically any top as long as it covers the bum. It will elevate your outfit! Waist length shirts can be presented much better in jeans or skirts. The goal here is to be both modest and attractive!

Makeup doesn’t have to be expensive or time consuming. I do believe we should make sure it is made from toxin free natural minerals etc. if it’s something that is worn everyday. But I have also had seasons where I used cheap stuff because it’s what my budget allowed. I don’t recommend cheap foundation; it is better to go barefaced and just touch up eyes and brows.

Practice a 5 minute face! This will be helpful for days you want to look pulled together and refined but have little time or energy.

Walgreens will allow you to return makeup even if opened, so don’t be worried about wasting money on a color that doesn’t look right. At the end of the year they typically run a super discount clearance sale. I really like the Covergirl 24 hour lip and it’s normally $8-$10. I got on Walgreens clearance for even less.

Just remember, in regards to cosmetics, you don’t always get what you pay for. A high price tag is often just simply a high price tag. Save your money and spend it on nutrient rich foods instead since our skin, hair and glow is influenced more by what we put in our bodies!

Pick a scent that is memorable. I love vanilla and roses! This is where it does matter to spend some extra cash. No cheap chemical perfumes!! Use unscented laundry products and your signature scent will not be overpowered by fake soap smell.

Let your accessories express your personality! This is fun and a great way to feel like we have more outfits. A white top and blue jeans can go boho with leather and feather jewelry and sandals, or dressy with crystal and metals, black jacket with cute boots, or casual with no jewelry, a ball cap, ponytail, and sneakers. Embrace the adventure while discovering your style! Maybe you have always wanted to wear an animal print or a neon bright color, try it as a toe nail color or a pair of earrings. Accessories are my favorite way to increase my variety because they don’t take up a lot of storage space.

In closing, let’s remember that we are who God says we are! God made all of us different because He loves variety. Rather than trying to be someone else, just be the best version of yourself! And I hope you have fun putting together some amazing outfits that reflect God’s glory and your authentic style.

Rebecca Vanderzon

“For you created my innermost being; You knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise You because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Your works are wonderful, I know that full well.

Your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be. How precious to me are your thoughts, O God!” (Psalm 139: 13-17a)

Author: Sara Daigle

Author, speaker, and mother of four beautiful kids. Passionate about wholeness, healing, purpose, and identity for all women regardless of culture, background, or circumstance.

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